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The Big Decision: Buying a Baby Stroller

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Since I became pregnant I’ve been getting a lot of advice on just about every topic such as: what to wear, what to eat, how to sleep, bathe and exercise. It’s all about sharing information and knowing what your options are, of course. I appreciate all the pieces of advice from the women and men in my life and their stories of what works and what doesn’t work when it comes to a new little one. One of the most pertinent discussions has been centred around the question of What to buy for baby?!

So I am going to tackle one of the most important purchases you will make: The Stroller.

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Batman stroller, anyone?

Let me say that I had no idea what I was getting into when I started researching stroller brands and models online. Three tips that might make the start of your search easier:

  • Decide on your budget: This will be a big ticket item. Consider any monetary resources that may affect your budget. Will you be expecting baby shower gifts of cash/gift cards, or will you set up a registry? Will you receive a group gift or are your friends/family willing to chip in to get you that luxury item? All this information will help you narrow down the price points.
  • Functionality: What features are most important to you? Are you a bells and whistles mom/dad or are you content with the basics? Think about the activities you will do with the stroller. Do you plan to do errands and grocery shopping with the stroller? Do you want a stroller that can function as a double if you are planning on another child? Many strollers have accessories that will cost you extra so you will have to decide whether you will REALLY need that coffee cup holder attachment! I will!
  • Lifestyle: Is stroller storage space an issue? How frequently will you be strolling? Do you live in an urban centre or do will you use your car and need to transport your stroller? Maybe a travel system will be another option for you? Or will you opt for adapters that will allow you to click in your infant car seat to your stroller base? Do you live an active lifestyle and need a stroller that will work well in various terrain?

If a new stroller isn’t a must for you, consider Craigslist. You can find top of the line strollers and stroller accessories in good condition for a fraction of the price. If you must buy new, keep in mind resale value if you are planning to sell after your little one is out of the stroller.  I came across some very nice strollers in good condition on Craigslist ( including high end brands) that were selling for 50-60% of the original value. Good deal for both sellers and buyers.

If you are like me, it’s all about the online researching. I know some people like to go to all the baby stores right away which is fun, but I like the convenience of doing my research from the comfort of my couch! I’m more comfortable when I’ve narrowed down my options and I can shop the store more efficiently. Also, I have a husband who gets easily exhausted when we do shopping trips but he still likes to be involved. More importantly, he will be pushing the stroller too so he needs to approve!

YouTube has endless reviews on pretty much every stroller out there. I watched SO many videos, and had to stop myself from YouTube overdose. It was seeing strollers in my sleep. It was that bad. When we walk down the street, my husband will point to a stroller and say,  “Name that stroller!” Most of the time, I actually can identify correctly.

I’m providing the two YouTube channels that were most helpful to me as there are plenty of reviews on each that will give you a good idea of the different types of strollers out there and the various brands and price points.

Nessa Lee TV:

This is a store in the US. As someone who knew very little about strollers, I found their videos helpful to explain the features of each stroller. They also have videos that compare the features of competing strollers on the market such as the UPPAbaby Vista and the Bugaboo Cameleon. They also do reviews on different models under the same brand. What I liked most about their reviewing style is that they give you a good idea of all the features of each so you can decide what works best for your needs and lifestyle. There isn’t an emphasis on which stroller is the best overall but it’s more about demonstrating the features and showing what each has to offer.

WATCH: UPPABABY VISTA 2015 REVIEW

Baby Gizmo:

Lots of reviews on strollers and other baby gear. This is not a retailer but the owner of this channel, Hollie Shultz does very good reviews on strollers and other baby gear. I did find the demos helpful and she shares her own experiences with using the strollers and other gear with her kids.

WATCH: BUGABOO CAMELEON 3 REVIEW

I haven’t bought a stroller yet in case you are wondering. I am waiting until the nursery is done – focus! I did drop by Crocodile Baby and checked out the UPPAbaby Vista,  Bugaboo Cameleon 3 and the Baby Jogger City Select . I had a conversation with a man at the store who appeared to be the owner. I asked about the wheel suspension on the strollers as was a feature that almost all the reviewers mentioned in their videos. He had an interesting response based on an engineering view pointing out that an infant or a toddler is not heavy enough to make a significant different where suspension would be affected for a stroller. He said he asked one of the representatives of one of the stroller companies about this and their response was that it was a feature that parents like …. good marketing. So there you go, some sort of inside information. Whatever you choose it has to work best for you, baby, and your lifestyle so you have more time to enjoy life!

If you have a stroller that you love, feel free to share by commenting below. And if you have any stroller challenges or questions, let us know those too! There’s always someone out there who has advice and experience to share.

Fatima was born and raised in Surrey. She is a yoga fanatic and loves aromatherapy. Her professional experiences are in Community Development, Communications/Marketing, & Human Resources. Fatima has been an active volunteer within the community for several years. With a passion for the creative and a love for the entrepreneurial spirit, Fatima is excited to bring something new to our city.

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Breastfeeding & The Coronavirus: Everything We Know So Far

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If you’re in one of the countries where Covid-19 has become a significant problem, which is almost everywhere at this stage, then you are probably already pretty familiar with what it is and why there is so much panic.

Chances are you’re working from home, all of your local bars and restaurants are closed and you are being encouraged to keep your distance from everyone, even your family and close friends.

For those of you who have yet to have their lives affected by this virus or just aren’t quite as clued in on the specifics just yet, let’s just discuss the basics of the virus and its risk factors;

What is Covid-19:

So in short, it’s a highly infectious disease that causes respiratory illness and flu-like symptoms such as coughing, shortness of breath and fever. For most people, the illness is relatively mild.

It won’t really feel like much more than a bad cold or chest infection, and a good chunk of those infected are actually completely asymptomatic for the duration of the illness. But for others, it can be devastating.

Those most at risk are the elderly, with most of those succumbing to the disease being over 70, and those with conditions that compromise the immune system, such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

It’s extremely contagious, even those who are not showing any symptoms can infect others. Because of this, it has spread like wildfire. The first affected country was China who has now seen upwards of 80,000 cases.

While China has been dealing with it for a few months now and appears to have it under a certain degree of control, the propensity for relatively benign symptoms resulted in this not being viewed as a massive problem and few measures were taken to stop the spread.

This resulted in the virus taking hold in many countries, with Italy and Iran being quite severely affected. In response to this, the majority of countries with cases now are implementing restrictions in an attempt to halt the spread.

These restrictions include things like large-scale lockdowns as well as mass encouragement for citizens to self-isolate for the foreseeable future. While the results in China and other countries where control is being regained seem to imply that eventually, this will cease to be a problem, it’s hard to know when we’ll get back to normal life.

So while we are well-informed for the most part on how to protect themselves and others from this, one thing that’s not talked about much is the possibility of spreading this virus by way of breastfeeding. Here’s what we know on that:

The Connection Between Covid-19 & Breastfeeding

As of right now, the answer to this isn’t concrete because there is still quite a bit that we need to learn about the virus and how it spreads. However, doctors suspect that in all likelihood is it safe for a mother to breastfeed even if she has contracted Covid-19.

Reason being that as of right now there have been tests conducted, and there has yet to be any trace of the virus found in samples of breast milk from confirmed cases of women suffering from the virus.

So it appears that the milk itself is not dangerous and more than likely this analysis isn’t going to change the more research we do. If there’s no trace of the virus then it’s not really possible for it to be transmitted this way.

With that in mind though, it’s probably worth thinking about it in broader terms than just the milk itself. We are being heavily encouraged right now to practice social distancing, which is a very difficult thing to do when breastfeeding.

So if you are breastfeeding while dealing with Covid-19, you need to make sure that you take the necessary precautions. And this is mainly going to be hygiene-related. Because it’s spread by droplets, you need to cover your mouth.

Wear a mask while breastfeeding, otherwise, it’s going to be impossible to prevent any potentially harmful bacteria being transferred from your mouth to your baby who you are holding very close.

Also, your hands are another problematic area. We’re all being told about the importance of washing our hands right now because every surface we touch could potentially have some traces of the virus on it.

Thoroughly wash and disinfect your hands before touching your child. You might actually want to consider using a breast pump and just building up a supply of milk so that you don’t have to actually breastfeed while you’re sick.

There are too many nutrients present in breastmilk for me to recommend that you actually switch to a different food source, but bottling some breast milk could be a good way to avoid all of the hassle and anxiety you might be experiencing.

Remember to take precautions here too though and disinfect the pump and the bottle before use.

To sum this up, your baby will be safe if you breastfeed while you’re sick as long as you are very cautious of hygiene before you do it.

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Corona virus Concerns & Children: How to Help Children Deal with Covid-19 Anxieties

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The current coronavirus situation is worrying for many people and children are especially vulnerable to the fear and anxiety experienced by the adults around them. A major change in the daily structure of the lives of kids is happening with the closure of schools and this may create very strong stress signals for children suggesting something bad is happening (of course some will no doubt welcome an early holiday).

It’s perfectly predictable that at the moment our kids are experiencing fear and distress and it’s important to acknowledge this and explore how they are feeling, but without adding to their alarm. Ask them what they have heard and respond in a way that validates their feelings and gives them factual information about what is happening(https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/publications/looking-after-your-mental-health-during-coronavirus-outbreak).

Psychotherapist Noel McDermott states that little ones might try to protect you from their distress and say they are fine, but it will show up in other ways such as:

  • In their play, which can become preoccupied with the worries; mummies and daddies getting sick and going to hospital, people getting hungry, people fighting and getting angry with each other
  • Kids might become avoidant when they are upset, not talking and withdrawing
  • Behaviour may deteriorate and arguments and fights start
  • Kids may ‘regress’ and start to act in a younger manner, depending on age you may see thumb sucking, incontinence, clinging behaviour

If you see these types of things you can gently explore with your kid why they think these behaviours are happening, allowing them to communicate their feelings verbally rather than behaviourally. It’s crucial to turn off all punishment signals and that you understand they are upset not bad

Structure is Key

Get a daily structure in place for kids as soon as you can. Plan a weekly timetable of education and activities. Structure in and of itself will have the impact of calming and reassuring your kids and off course annoying them if it interrupts TV time! That structure should include regular sleep and wake times and regular mealtimes. Ensure physical activity is programmed in, even if you are isolating at home then program in family home gym activities. If you are allowed out or have a garden use this a lot! It will help you all. (https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prepare/managing-stress-anxiety.html)

How to Help Your Children Deal with Covid-19 Anxieties

There are no right or wrong ways to talk to your kids and support them during the current public health crisis but here’s a helpful list of ways to think about it:

  • Create an emotionally open and supportive environment
  • Be honest and be accurate, use your government and UN sources of information (WHO, CDC in the US, NHS in the UK)
  • Reassure but don’t overpromise
  • Validate your kid’s feeling whilst providing reassurance
  • Talk at the level your kid can understand
  • Control access to news channels to reduce access to frightening stories
  • Kids will learn from how you behave, and they will personalise and try to protect you from their bad feelings which they will experience as very destructive

Because of your own fears your creativity may run dry when trying to think about activities for your kids, so here’s a few links to get you started. There are loads and things online and remember you are not alone.. reach out, network, share with other adults, stay connected and meet your needs where you can!

These links are the result of personal searches and designed to get you started and remind you that you have the capacities and resources to get through this!

Noel McDermott is a Psychotherapist and International Speaker with over 25 years’ experience in health, social care and education. An impactful workshop leader, he delivers bespoke training on a range of social care, clinical and human rights ethics and issues across multiple sectors. He is the founder and CEO of three organisations, Psychotherapy and Consultancy Ltd, Sober Help Ltd and Mental Health Works Ltd. Noel’s company offer at-home mental health care and will source, identify and co-ordinate personalised care teams for the individual.

For further information or for press enquiries please contact

Natalie Clarke on email natalie@loveprlondon.com

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The Rollercoaster Ride of Divorce and a Parent’s Tale of Hope

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The Rollercoaster Ride of Divorce and a Parent’s Tale of Hope

By Karen Kaye

I was blindsided. I did not see this coming. Sure, we had our issues, but I was not prepared for the volcano that would erupt and continue to overflow for a solid decade. I was a stay-at-home mom. I was focused on raising my 18-month-old baby when my husband dropped the bomb that he wanted to get a divorce and began to pack his things to leave the home we built together. The first question I had was, “What did I do wrong?” I was sleep-deprived, but I was meeting my baby’s needs without help and figured that was quite the accomplishment. It is amazing how a trauma can suddenly wake you up in a jolt! Prior to the divorce, I was lucky in the sense that my biggest worry was, “What is the best diaper to buy?”

All of a sudden, I was in a new state of panic as I had to ask myself, “How am I going to feed my baby and keep a roof over our heads?” I was clueless, but fortunately the clouds above my head lifted as I was offered a position at a local community center where I served as a volunteer. A year and a half later, I was let go. I recall looking up to the heavens asking again, “What did I do wrong?” I had finally seen the light at the end of the tunnel only for it to return to darkness and despair. It appeared the universe had other plans for me. On a whim, I decided to use my unemployment money to start up a private practice. At that point, I honestly felt as if my angels showed up, as every courageous yet frightening step I took led me to somehow receive another client. To this day, I call it a miracle! I was able to keep my precious child and start a business that no one thought I could keep afloat for a day let alone the last four decades or so.

So now you might be asking . . . why the rollercoaster reference? Well, you start off with anticipation, worry and fear. You question every choice you make, like when you are waiting in a very long line for a rollercoaster ride that you have to talk yourself into every few minutes or so. Once on the ride, you have to hold on for dear life as it twists and turns your fragile, human body. You feel as if the ride will never end and even when it does, you are left with this sickening feeling in your stomach. I call this ride “divorce” and it has several stages that require processing as well as learning life lessons.

So, what are these life lessons and how can we establish a new hope as single or remarried parents?

  1. There are no guarantees in life. Spouses leave. Jobs end. Friends fade away. Be ready for the ups and downs that life brings you to teach you to grow.
  2. Learn to rely on yourself and in that process, you will be learning how to love and care for yourself.
  3. Trust comes first from trusting yourself. Trusting others will then follow.
  4. Being a better parent to yourself will allow you to be a better parent to your child. Self-care is crucial before, during, and after a divorce!
  5. There is no perfect way of reacting to a divorce. It is important, though, to see the big picture.
  6. It is okay for you and your children to feel the pain and grief of divorce while learning and growing together.
  7. Remember that you are the roots from which your children branch. How a parent reacts, i.e., hopeless or hopeful, will directly affect the children’s response to the divorce. (A stable parent DOES make a difference.)
  8. Parents will need a “village” to stabilize themselves first before taking on their children’s needs. Surround yourself with people going through this process as well as people that genuinely care for your well-being and the well-being of your children. It might be difficult to identify the people to keep in your circle.
  9. Be aware that as an adult, you have some power over the outcome of your divorce and its effects, while your children are powerless.
  10. In hindsight, you will be amazed by how courageous you were in this process and you will learn who you really are.

My book, My Parents Are Getting a Divorce . . . I Wonder What Will Happen to Me, is the legacy that I give to myself, my daughter, and all who are going through or have already experienced the rollercoaster ride of divorce. It serves as a healthy, creative, safe place for children to explore and process their feelings by initiating discussion as well as discovering the power of self-affirmation and drawing. Another unique layer of the book teaches parents as well as other professionals (i.e., teachers, guidance counselors, mediators, lawyers, etc.) to better understand the emotions and needs of each individual child who utilizes this book without applying their biased viewpoints and/or influence.

Karen Kaye, LMHC is a licensed mental health counselor with the State of Florida and received her master’s degree in family therapy from the University of Maryland. For fifteen years she has written a column titled “Ask the Therapist” in the Natural Awakenings Magazine of Broward County, Florida. My Parents Are Getting a Divorce came to life through Karen’s efforts to keep her own child out of the middle of her divorce when Hara was young. The book has been an evolutionary healing process for her and her daughter. For more information, visit www.imstillmebook.com.

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South Surrey mother wants to thank Good Samaritan

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Sasha Risi, a South Surrey mother of three children under the age of three is searching for a Good Samaritan to say thank you.

All three children were in the back seat of her car last Thursday. They were stuck in traffic on 152 Street when her two year old son, Lyon, suddenly couldn’t breathe.

“I see his lips are turning blue and he’s really struggling, he’s choking and puking everywhere,” Risi said. “I knew right then and there, I have to do something now.”

She was stuck in the left lane at an intersection during rush hour and could not pull over, so she put the car into park and jumped out, which caused traffic to stop.

“Cars are literally just detouring right beside us,” Risi said. “It was a terrible situation and they’re just honking and giving me the middle finger. I’m whacking him on the back screaming and yelling asking for people to call 911.”

Fortunately, one person did stop to help. A nurse.

“She was calling out all the things we needed to do and she just went into action and she was helping calm me,” Risi said. “When everything was under control, she helped clean up all the puke and even offered to drive me home.”

Amid all the chaos, Risi never got to ask for the woman’s name and now wants to find her.

“I’d love to meet her and hug her and say thank you,” Risi said. “She really helped save my son’s life and she put herself at risk.”

She said the good Samaritan is an Indo-Canadian woman in her 20s, possibly early 30s, who drives a black Honda.

Risi can be found on Instagram @mylyonkingarmy.

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Gift Giving Season: How to Give Gifts Without the Risk of Spoiling Your Children

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It is entirely understandable to want to give your children everything that they ask of you, especially if you did not grow up with too many things as a child. It is only human to want to provide for your children the support that you might not have enjoyed yourself. However, there is always the risk of spoiling your kids, as they may grow used to the coddling and gift giving to the point where they expect only the best.

It is why many parents often feel frustrated and unsure of what to do when it comes to the act of giving their kids gifts. After all, if you give them whatever they want it could be setting a bad example, which could lead to bad habits forming as they grow. Here are just a few tips to giving gifts without the risk of spoiling your children.

Do not be afraid to say no

The first and most vital step is to learn when to say no to your children. Even if you might have money to burn, if your kids demand that you give them toys or gadgets so soon after you have just given them what they asked for, you will be setting a bad example by caving into their demands. Set expectations for your kids and for yourself and let them know that they cannot always have what they want; otherwise, they will not learn to appreciate the value of money.

Give them gifts that will allow you to bond with them

While your kids might ask you for the latest video game console or a high-tech smartphone, it is often an excellent idea to go for a few classic choices. For example, while they might not ask for a scooter for kids, the opportunity to learn how to ride a scooter or a bike while bonding with you is often more than enough for them to enjoy such a gift. It is no stretch to say that for most kids, anything that helps them bond with their parents is great.

Help your kids earn their gifts

Even if you might want to give them gifts, it is a common scenario for kids to ask for something that might be more than your budget. In those situations, it is a good idea to help them earn what they ask for. They could work on a few odd jobs around the neighbourhood, or perhaps they have a set amount of chores to work on every day. You would be surprised how willing kids can be to earn their keep, as the thought of earning their money is often a novel idea at a young age.

It is understandable to be worried about spoiling your children with lavish gifts. Fortunately, you do not have to suffer through trial and error. Following the steps above will ensure that not only will you be able to give your kids the gifts that they want, but you can do it without worrying about spoiling your children.

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